Happy Valentine’s Day!
In my posts, I often mention JT and our long-distance relationship. Judd and I have been together over four and a half years now while we attend college in different states. This is actually our fifth Valentine’s Day together, but we’ve never celebrated in the same place. This V-Day, instead of me gushing about him, I wanted Judd to be able to speak for himself and provide his perspective on our relationship.
Thus, I give you this Valentine’s Day Q&A with him—I hope you love some of his answers as much as I do.
First, I asked him about himself:
What did you want to be when you grew up? What are you doing now?
JT: A professional soccer player. I wanted to play in the MLS (for the LA Galaxy). Now, I’m becoming a professional surveyor.
Are you happy with that?
What are you passionate about? What are some things in your life that you love the most?
JT: You, my family. Playing sports and being active, being outside. My friends. Music; I listen to a lot of music.
What’s the best advice you’ve ever gotten or a quote that you look to for inspiration?
JT: ‘Don’t sweat the small stuff.’
Then, I asked him about relationship stuff:
What was your first impression of me?
JT: I always thought you were cute but probably too smart for me.
And once we started dating?
JT: Wow, she’s smart and I need her. She’ll help motivate me to be a better person.
Did you ever think you’d be in an ldr?
JT: No. I never saw myself going that far from home or finding anyone before college.
Were you scared to be in one?
JT: Oh, yeah. I’m living eight hours away… And there were always other people in your life, like guy friends. I figured we’d grow apart. I’m so glad that didn’t happen.
What’s been the hardest part?
JT: Planning travel to meet. We always have two set dates to meet, but then after that? We both have stuff that pops up. I don’t want to tell you, you can’t go [to whatever comes up] because that’s not fair. [And] our spring breaks are a real inconvenience because they’re one week away.
How do you deal with not seeing me when you think you’re going to?
JT: I get frustrated. Because even when we’re not home, it feels like home when we’re together.
Part of me gets worried. You’re on my mind more. I text you more. I look at my watch and I’m like, “Oh, she’s still at work.” Right after I see you, I don’t wonder where you or what you’re doing as much.
What do you love the most about us?
JT: There are so many things. How we’re on the same page in life right now; we’re ready to be adults [together] but not stop doing adventurous things, to settle down but not be weighed down.
How supportive we are of each other, whether we like each other’s decisions or not. You can’t have a relationship without being supportive and having trust.
Also, connecting through our taste in music.
What relationship advice would you give someone? (Other than the A+ advice you gave a second ago about needing mutual trust and support.)
JT: Listen. You learn more and know how to react and be supportive. Don’t be afraid to talk about problems.
What are you most excited about for the future?
JT: Living together full-time. Watching each other grow.
So that’s my person in a nutshell. Remember to take a second to appreciate your person today and every day.